Fandom Drama - Blog Posts

People always talk about what fandom is the most toxic like the usual culprits are Hazbin hotel, undertale, BTS,Marvel, LOL, the classics but I think everyone is ignoring sports. People are literally fuckin insane when it comes to literally any sport at least in the US. The only difference between it and online fandoms are is the fact that people don't have shipping wars and talk about whether or not its problematic to ship baseballs with soccer balls this shit also goes back like decades most tumblr fandoms go back at most like 20 years.

Can drama affect critisism (RWBY)

I saw a post today that really saddened me and so I felt the need to put this out there for everyone. Fandoms can be a lot of fun, but not always, so in case you needed to hear that today...

You're allowed to like any character.

You'll never be a bad person for liking X. Liking a character doesn't mean you condone their actions. You're allowed to find an antagonist interesting. You're allowed to find comfort in a controversial character. You're allowed to love a character and it never gives anyone the right to attack you or ruin your day.

You're allowed to like or find comfort in Enji Todoroki or Akito Soma. You're allowed to like or wish things had gone differently for James Ironwood or Raven Branwen. You're allowed to like Edelgard or Dimitri despite their flaws. Liking a character doesn't make you an abuser. Liking a character doesn't make you a bootlicker. It doesn't make you a fascist. It doesn't mean you're down for murder. It doesn't make you a bad person.

You can like anyone for so many reasons. It doesn't mean you agree with them or condone their actions. It doesn't reflect on who you are as a person.

Don't attack people for simply liking a character. You have NO IDEA why they do or what's going on in their lives. Be kind to each other. We watch & read & play to have fun, to comfort ourselves. We go on Tumblr or Twitter or Instagram to find kinship. What's the point if we become each others' enemy ?

You can disagree about characters, you can find their actions appaling, you can argue that X character is a terrible person. That's fine ! Some characters ARE terrible people and their bad actions aren't acknowledged enough. But you DON'T get to hurt or wish harm upon someone for simply liking a character.

BE KIND.

@oonajaeadira has a great response to the reason drama in the Pedro fandoms and I hope we can all learn to handle these situations as lovingly, gently, but firmly as her. Everyone's feelings are valid, but not everyone's actions are and I hope we can all move on and make this a learning lesson where no one else gets hurt. Mentally, physically, or emotionally. As a writer, my first reaction was to block, but Adira's loving note made me reconsider and have an open heart about this. For everyone involved.

Not trying to add to any drama, my heart goes out to everyone who is hurting from this.

I am not stealing anything. I have removed/ changed everything I've been asked to remove. I voiced my opinion. This post by @stealyourblorbos is unwarranted, nasty, and untrue. If y'all would give me a chance, then maybe this can be worked out without hard feelings and people being blocked.

Come sit next to me, kitkat. Let me love on you. Gonna say some things that you might not like all the way, but I see that you're angry and hopefully I can help you see where I'm at.

Listen. Jules is a good friend of mine and I trust her. With my life. Every interaction I've had with her has been genuine and while I don't know everything about her life, I know enough that having her work stolen can be not only demoralizing, but damaging to her profits. She is a working artist. And while, yes, she does post stuff very generously online for free, those posts can bring her commissions and work. So to have someone pass them off as their own can be severely heartbreaking and damaging.

I didn't see the posts in question, so I have to imagine what the situation was. I truly believe that you didn't mean to pass the work off as your own. You may have just seen something beautiful and posted it because you're curating your blog. But if you don't credit the artist or reblog from the original source, that is basically you claiming yourself as the OG poster, and that is a kind of theft. It's better if you post a link to the artist. But it's best if you reblog from the original post itself. That's how the artist intended the work to be shown and it also directs people back to their blog so they can gain interest and therefore work.

You already know all of this and I'm sorry if this comes off as condescending. I don't want to condescend. At all. I asked you to sit by me for a reason.

If you noticed, I did NOT block you. In fact, the post led me to follow you. Because as much as I trust Jules, I also love her a hell of a lot and I know myself enough to know that emotions can do things to judgment. I wanted to make sure I wasn't just blocking you blindly out of my love for her. I always want to give people the benefit of the doubt and see their side of things before I bring out the pitchfork.

So I took a look at your page. Did I see anything that was stolen and passed off as your own? No. Did I see a few pieces of reposted artwork that wasn't credited? I did. Hmm. So there's some improvement that could happen there. But. I appreciate that you have done your best to remedy the situation. I'm glad you ultimately respected the wishes of the artist to remove a piece when it was asked you do so. Thank you.

Now then, let's get to my actions. Did I reblog Jules' post? You bet I did. She was hurt, she's my friend, and she's a fellow creator. As a creator myself I would feel horrible if someone reposted my work without crediting me. I felt that hurt in my soul. And whether you apologized or took down the posts, that hurt remains and distrust will linger. Righting a wrong does not instantly warrant forgiveness. That must be earned.

If you did something to hurt and you're sorry for it, then you'll do what you can to show that you truly appreciate the art that you put on your blog. In this case, you could do your best to credit and support the artists whose art you love. Follow a few of them and get to know them. Tell your followers who they are and why you love their art. Become a friend to artists.

However, if you believe you weren't in the wrong, that others are overreacting, then I stand by my reblog of Jules' post. You'll notice my tags were something along the line of "don't do this." And I mean that. This is a cautionary tale for others. "Please, fandom friends, don't treat creators this way. It hurts, and we'll get angry about it."

So know that while I listen to my friend--someone who has been nothing but good to me and deserves my support--I'm also listening to you. I hear you. I am 100% giving you a chance. I don't want to block you, because in this fandom we've all been through enough mistaken conduct and finger-pointing and really, all we all wanna do is love a really nice man and the work he does. I know that's what Jules wants, it's what I want, and taking the time to peek at your blog, now I think that's probably what you want too.

But just to be sure, I'll give you a follow and get to understand you better. While I must support my friend's feelings, I hope in time I can come to trust that your intentions are well-meaning.

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