Also Stated That It’s ’less A Bi Woman Makes A Relationship Queer, And More A Straight Man Makes

THIS MIGHT BE ONE OF MY FAVORITE POSTS OF YOURS I'VE EVER COME ACROSS MARI OMG THESE ARE ALL SO GORGEOUSLY PRETTY FUCK I LOVE YOU MUTUAL /P

@xxcalicofemmexx i know you make wallpapers like this, look! 🫶

Various Bi Flag Wallpapers ✨

Pastel Bi (same meaning as OG bi flag) 🩷💜💙

Bi4Bi (bisexual who dates fellow bi’s) 🩵🌙💜

Selenic (specific to bi wlw/bi sapphics) 💜🌙🤍

Bi dyke (selenics who reclaim dyke) 💜💛❤️

Bihet (selenics who reclaim bihet) 🩷🖤💙💜

Camellian (selenics choosing saph4saph) 🩷🌸💜

Bi femme (a bi who is femme) ❤️🩷💜

Bi butch (a bi who is butch) 🩵💛💙

Queen Glimmer Bi Dyke Icons 💜💛❤️

BlueBird Camellian Icons 💗🩷🌸💜💙

Bisexuals with no preference… you are so valid. No you are not faking it, no you do not need to pick a ‘favourite’ side that you’re attracted to, no you’re not actually pansexual, you are you

realest shit. that IS the collaboration.

hey @predatory-lesbians i like your username, we should collab sometime about reclaimed stereotypes (/lh /hj)

Recently I’ve been thinking about different components of sexual orientation, and how it is effectively formed of both internal identity and external behaviour. It’s interesting that, without a detailed conversation with other individuals, we can only assume their orientation and identity on the basis of their external behaviour, which is all that is visible to us.

For example, if someone is in a long term, committed, monogamous relationship with a member of the opposite sex, they are assumed to be straight, and their behaviour is interpreted as representative of heterosexuality. But they might be bisexual. If someone is in a long term, committed, monogamous relationship with a member of the same sex, they are assumed to be gay/lesbian, and their behaviour is interpreted as representative of homosexuality. But they might be bisexual.

In this context, what external behaviour could someone exhibit that would lead to the assumption they were bisexual, and therefore that their behaviour is representative of bisexuality? They’d have to be engaging with the same sex and the opposite sex more or less simultaneously in order not to be assumed to be straight or gay/lesbian. How might that work?

They could be having regular sex with multiple people of both sexes (bisexuals are promiscuous, bisexuals are easy, bisexuals are sluts). They could be having multiple concurrent and short term relationships with people of both sexes (bisexuals can’t commit, bisexuals will leave you for a member of the other sex). They could be having sex with people of both sexes at the same time (bisexuals are kinky, bisexuals have group sex, bisexuals want to have threesomes all the time). They could have a committed relationship with a member of one sex, and affairs with members of the other sex (bisexuals CHEAT). They could be non-monogamous and having various relationships with members of both sexes (bisexuals can’t be satisfied with just one person).

So. In order for other people to recognise you as a bisexual person, you have to be engaging in some form of stigmatised and nonconforming sexual activity, all of which just happen to be typical stereotypes about bisexuality. The only way to be perceived as a bisexual person is to conform with bisexual stereotypes. A bisexual person who doesn’t conform to a single bisexual stereotype cannot be perceived as a bisexual person, and therefore cannot disprove or undermine those stereotypes in the mind of the person perceiving them. Because if they don’t conform to a single bisexual stereotype, they are perceived as heterosexual/homosexual, and their nice, conforming, virtuous behaviour is ascribed to that perceived monosexual identity. Even if they had previously exhibited bisexual behaviour (bisexuality is just a phase, they’ll eventually pick a side).

Alternatively, they could verbally assert their identity regularly enough to offset the assumptions others make on the basis of their behaviour (bisexuals are self-obsessed).

There is no way of being consistently perceived as a bisexual person, in the current landscape, without reinforcing bisexual stereotypes in the minds of those perceiving you, because if you don’t align with and reinforce those stereotypes you are unperceivable as a bisexual person.

neat! thanks!

Asami Sato bi icons 🩷💜💙

I recoloured/edited the original bi flag to have a lil more purple lighting 💜 but the meaning of the flag stays the same

THIS BLOG IS A SAFE SPACE FOR ALL BISEXUAL WOMEN.

whether you have only dated men, only want to date men, have only dated women, only want to date women, have dated both and more genders, at the same time or not, don't want to date at all;

whether you are in a relationship with a man, in a relationship with a woman, in a relationship with a nonbinary person, in a relationship with someone who is not any of those, in a relationship with multiple people, or not in a relationship at all;

whether you enjoy threesomes or not;

whether you have a preference for men, a preference for women, a preference for nonbinary people, a preference for other genders, or have no preference and feel attraction regardless of gender, whether you're attracted to all genders, or are only attracted to some genders;

whether you've always known you were bisexual, you identified as a different sexuality before coming out as bisexual, you use other labels as well as bisexual interchangeably or simultaneously, or you're still unsure about or are scared of being bisexual;

whether you are masculine, feminine, androgynous, have mixed presentation, or something else;

whether you are a butch, a femme, a futch, a stud, a fish, a stem, or none of these;

whether you are a cis woman, a trans woman, a nonbinary woman, a multigender woman, a genderfluid woman, or have a different relationship with your womanhood;

whether your experiences with your bisexual womanhood is like something listed above or something different altogether;

NO MATTER WHAT, MY BLOG IS A SAFE PLACE FOR ALL BISEXUAL WOMEN.

here you will not be judged. here you will not be belittled. here you will not be abused or ridiculed. here you will not be bullied. here you will not be treated as lesser. here you will not be vilified or told you are wrong because of your sexuality.

bimisia has no place here or in the community.

here you will be loved. here you will be respected. here you will be honored. here you will be uplifted. here you will be praised. here you will be adored. here you will be respected. here you will be supported.

MY BLOG IS A SAFE PLACE FOR ALL BISEXUAL WOMEN.

because you belong here, and you deserve to have a community that supports you.

Brainless clogs >:(

what does febfem mean?

@bai-xue-lives and @prismatic-bell both asked me the same question, so here goes nuffink

Febfem: On Bisexual Radfems, Facts Don’t Care About Feelings, and Lesbians Essentialism

Radical feminists describe ‘febfem’ as a bisexual female* who, by choice. exclusively dates females. It arose out of a specific subset of radfem tumblr, which holds some ideas about gender, sexuality, and identity to be self-evident. these facts include:

lesbian refers exclusively to homosexual females. words like bisexual and lesbian are not identities but statements of fact. any person who self-identifies as a lesbian must be a female homosexual. if you’re not a female homosexual for any reason (you’ve dated men in the past, you were assigned male at birth, you’re bisexual but only date women) then you cannot be a lesbian. you need other words.

females who are exclusively attracted to females are the most oppressed group. everybody else needs to protect them; their terminology, and their spaces. they are inviolate. an attack upon them is the greatest crime. bisexual women are their oppressors because bi women benefit from heterosexuality (what these benefits are is unclear)

lesbians are allowed to call bisexual women anything they want, including slurs like cockslut, bihet, handmaiden, etc. a lesbian referring to bi women using these slurs is venting about her trauma at the hands of her bisexual oppressors and is above question or reproach. bisexual women are not allowed to vent about their trauma at the hands of lesbians because they have privilege over lesbians and it would be lesbophobic.

bisexual women are untrustworthy rapists who want to invade lesbian only spaces and abuse lesbians. [please note that in this case, “bisexual women” also refers to trans-inclusive lesbians.] all bisexual women are untrustworthy, cheating cocksluts until proven otherwise.

Bisexual radfems who want to have access to spaces that keep them safe and people who don’t treat them like cocksluts who are only waiting to cheat on the nearest lesbian, must find some way to signal their virtuosity. “Look at us!” They say. “We’re good bisexuals, unlike these other bihet handmaidens. Please allow us into your safe spaces, and make room for us in your rhetoric. We promise to hate ourselves for being attracted to men, constantly apologise for oppressing lesbians, and allow lesbians to target and bully us whenever they like. Look, to make it easy for lesbian radfems to tell when a bisexual is one of the Good Ones, we’ll put this handy word that we just made up - Febfem - in our bios, so you know precisely how to find us.”

It’s almost enough to make me feel sorry for them. If you go through the febfem tag on tumblr, a lot of posts talk about the importance of not talking over lesbians, not infringing on lesbian-only spaces, and not appropriating lesbian terminology, and reiterating constantly that lesbians don’t owe bi women anything (Just be grateful they didn’t call you an abusive slut today!). Of course, all this ground is won at the cost of bisexual women who aren’t female-exclusive, trans-inclusive lesbians, and trans lesbians. So I don’t really feel sorry for them. Except when I do, cause hyperempathy is a bitch that way.

also, they hate mogai tumblr even though they’re literally the radfem version of mogais

*Note: I use female when talking about AFABs (as radfems use female) and women when talking about people who identify as women regardless of AGAB.