It’s So Hard And Weird Being Pro Para And Anti Transid Because You’ll Get Lumped Under “radqueer”

it’s kind of crazy how here on the so-called feminism website you literally can’t say something as simple as “dude is an inherently gendered term” without literally dozens upon dozens of people who consider themselves feminists showing up to say “idk i use it in a gender neutral way”. like idk how to tell you this but the fact that masculine words are considered default/neutral and feminine words are not is, in fact a reflection, of a patriarchal society.

Yes. Some autistic people can pay taxes, write poems, live an independent life, etc.

But some of us cant. Some of us, like me, cant live independently. Cant be without someone. Cant be a member of society without extreme accommodation and help.

I need help in everyday life. I have a caregiver for gods sake. I need help in everyday life and will never be independent. It’s frustrating to constantly get comments about how autistic people can live independently. Cause some of us cant, and that needs to be talked about. I get sores from not showering enough. I get sores from my wheelchair. I have cavities from not brushing my teeth enough.

Life with higher support needs shouldn’t be something that is ignored and not talked about. My caregiver helps me live life as independently as possible. Independence looks different for everyone. Our caregivers are an extension of ourselves. Our caregivers are important and should be recognized. Stop throwing us under the bus for your “salvation”

We are all at risk, and throwing higher support needs people under the bus will not benefit you. You’re ruining years of advocacy by your words and videos.

Radfems and terfs will get so incredibly weird when you talk about trans people. I have had a radfem get very angry about me saying I support trans women and start talking to me about trans women in prison raping other prisoners, like that’s an insane leap. We weren’t even talking about prisons at all. And first of all, that’s a bad thing to happen, everyone can agree. Rape is horrific under any possible circumstance. And I haven’t done any research on that exact topic, I am not an expert, I don’t know of any specific examples but that doesn’t actually matter. Gender isn’t a factor in the level of ‘badness’ of assault, it’s equally bad. This hypothetical rapist trans woman or even real rapist trans women has literally nothing to do with the validity of all trans women. Rapists in prison shouldn’t be allowed to be in situations where they can rape anyone. The prison system is flawed! I don’t have a solution! I am a random person with opinions! My opinion is very simple, rape is evil, rapists should be kept away from victims. And that opinion has nothing at all to do with my opinion that trans women are women.

This is not a well formulated thoughtfully crafted post, this is an annoyed rambling mess.

dear autistics who

white

low support needs

not need 24/7 support

can work independently

can pay taxes

language privileged

intellectual & cognitive privileged

who can fit in societal definition of useful & productive (yes, even if hard)

when fight back against eugenics & ableism, you NEED to fight alongside, fight with, n fight for autistics who

radicalized & POC

from places of world where there critically lack autism knowledge n support

visibly autistic

higher support needs

need 24/7 care

can’t work independently or even work at all

can’t pay taxes

nonverbal, nonspeaking, minimally verbal, without functional communication, or cannot communicate via language at all even AAC

w intellectual disability or cognitive disabilities

who cannot fit into society definition of useful n productive, no matter how hard we try

because we always are & always will be primary target.

because we most vulnerable most marginalized within our, OUR community, which you belong in.

because once they finish us off you won’t be spared.

Performative feminism is a most annoying aspect of our times.

Mfs will be like “Omg I hate radfems and terfs! They’re awful! Radfeminsim and Terf ideology is bad!!!” And then turn around and be like “All men are evil and bad and all women are pure and good! But it’s okay this time because I’m including trans people!!!!”

we did NOT have a period of discourse about how 'if trans women don't pass as women, but they do pass as men, they don't pass as men - they pass as 'queer' or 'other'' for yous to fucking go 'if trans men don't pass as men, which they're privileged for if they do, then they pass 100% as cis women, which they're privileged for when they do'

like SHUT UPPPPPPP I DID NOT PASS AS A CIS WOMAN EVERYONE THOUGHT I WAS A DYKE/TRANNY/QUEER. I NEVER PASSED AS 'WOMAN' I PASSED AS 'FREAK OF NATURE'. I WAS BARELY TREATED LIKE A HUMAN BEING LET ALONE A WOMAN

what ppl defending kids on ipads don’t seem to understand is that there are other ways to keep kids occupied. my mom had a whole bag full of little toys and games for me to play with while waiting in lines at disney world. once your kid is like 7 or 8 they can read a book. they can color. or they can literally just sit there and imagine things. i did that a lot as a kid.

"i can't benefit from oppressive power structures, i'm literally nice :)" is a disturbingly common sentiment on here and if u express it then i can never trust u again