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sleepdeprivedbakla

5 months ago

If I had a nickel for every time a corvid was turned into a remarkably attractive man by an incredibly powerful woman who needs him to act as her agent, I’d have two nickels.

Which isn’t a lot, but it’s strange it happened twice.

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sleepdeprivedbakla

2 years ago

2 truths 1 lie

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sleepdeprivedbakla

8 months ago

gif of Charles and Crystal sat on the pavement outside Tongue & Tail, Crystal is leaning into Charles as he has one arm wrapped around her shoulders and lifts the other to hug her completely. White text reading "I want to be a comfort to my friends" is edited across the center of the gif.

gif of Edwin, Charles and Crystal knelt over Niko (out of shot). Edwin is shaking his head and Crystal is crying as Charles stands and tries to pull the other two up by their arms he has looped his through. White italic text reading "in tragedy" is edited onto the center.

gif of Charles and Edwin moving to stand either side of the fireplace in Crystal's room, Crystal is reflected in the mirror in the middle of the wall in between them. Charles is talking enthusiastically as he perches on a small table because they have just finished the Case of the Creeping Forest. White text reading "and I want to be able to celebrate with them" edited into the center of the gif

Edwin and Charles stood hugging in the middle of their office, they pull away from each other and Charles is smiling with relief as he confirms Edwin is safe from Hell. White italic text is edited onto the center reading "in triumph"

gif of Charles and Niko stood in the hallway, Charles is looking fondly at her as Niko turns to him with a big smile, talking enthusiastically. White text reading "and for all the times in between" is edited onto the center.

gif of Edwin, Charles and Crystal huddled together and bending over to discuss taking on The Case of the Two Dead Dragons. Charles looks from Edwin to Crystal as she begins to talk. White italic text reading "I just want to be able to look them in the eye" is edited onto the center

[insp.]

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sleepdeprivedbakla

11 months ago

Not that anybody asked, but I think it's important to understand how shame and guilt actually work before you try to use it for good.

It's a necessary emotion. There are reasons we have it. It makes everything so. much. worse. when you use it wrong.

Shame and guilt are DE-motivators. They are meant to stop behavior, not promote it. You cannot, ever, in any meaningful way, guilt someone into doing good. You can only shame them into not doing bad.

Let's say you're a parent and your kid is having issues.

Swearing in class? Shame could work. You want them to stop it. Keep it in proportion*, and it might help. *(KEEP IT IN PROPORTION!!!)

Not doing their homework? NO! STOP! NO NOT DO THAT! EVER! EVER! EVER! You want them to start to do their homework. Shaming them will have to opposite effect! You have demotivated them! They will double down on NOT doing it. Not because they are being oppositional, but because that's what shame does!

You can't guilt people into building better habits, being more successful, or getting more involved. That requires encouragement. You need to motivate for that stuff!

If you want it in a simple phrase:

You can shame someone out of being a bad person, but you can't shame them into being a good person.

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