Pleasureandprinciple - Sugar Rimmed

no matter how isolated you are and how lonely you feel, if you do your work truly and consclentiously,

unknown friends will come and seek you

TIME IS NOT REFUNDABLE.

USE IT WITH INTENTION.

Things you look for in men?

Put together (usually subtle designer), good haircuts and neat nails, expensive aesthetic dental and vision care, a high quality/rigorous educational background, a pricey hobby or two, a network of personal and professional connections that would boggle the mind of an average person, a good family name (no matter how small), experience traveling, good manners and a mild temperament, a set career path with a reasonable backup plan, little to no debt, and good mental health.

I’m always shocked when girls turn down the opportunity to have American vacations. I love a short flight and a good stateside stay because then I’m able to start enjoying myself immediately instead of trying to fight off jet lag or figure out a new country.

I feel like my conception of It girls was deeply shaped by growing up in the 2000s…I simply don’t believe that anyone who is chronically online can ever be a true It girl. It girls aren’t supposed to take loads of photos of themselves, they’re supposed to be photographed by others stumbling out of nightclubs or in appear in best dressed magazine spreads …They’re supposed to seem a bit mysterious and unreachable and like they’re always busy having fun and being glamorous. For this and so many other reasons I just cannot understand how anyone could conceive of Dasha from Redscare or any of these dead-eyed Dimes Square adjacent people as an It girl. Those people are a charisma vacuum. They never look like they’re having any fun and they’re also obsessed with online culture wars (profoundly unchic behaviour). Also their personas are extremely effortfully contrived while the true It girl exude effortlessness and seems like she influences people and culture simply by existing.

bipasha basu in bachna ae haseeno (2008)

Favorite American vacation spots?

The Greenbrier in West Virginia and the Montage at Palmetto Bluff in South Carolina are both gorgeous. I prefer the South to the West Coast now, so my opinions on vacation spots are going to be biased. Both resorts are more relaxing than Amangiri (Utah, ugh) and the Miraval (I can’t do Arizona), and the Florida resorts and 30A have been run over by influencers, so I don’t bother visiting anymore. Another really fun thing to do is to rent a nice beach house somewhere right on the water, in an area with great restaurants and even better weather, and spend a week just relaxing. I rented a spot on Lake Michigan with a few girlfriends last summer and it was a perfect time.

btw I am doing it afraid

all we can do is be sincere